ROMANTIC
LOVE IS A HOAX!
Emotional Programming to 'Fall in
Love'
—a portal of Internet
resources critical of romantic love—
Contrary to popular opinion, romantic love is not a natural phenomenon.
Rather, the emotion of being romantically in love
is created inside each person who experiences this feeling
by the emotional programming of the popular culture.
La
Rochefoucauld put it well in an epigram long ago: "People would
never fall in love
if they had not heard love talked about."
This portal provides links to several Internet
resources
that are very critical of the phenomenon of romantic love:
The first
chapter of New Ways of Loving
This chapter is also named "Romantic Love is a Hoax!"
This link contains the table of contents of the chapter on romantic love
and some paragraphs about the historical origin of romantic feelings.
The Romantic
Love Test: How Do We Know if We Are in Love?
This set of questions to ask ourselves
will help us to determine just how deeply
we have been programmed into the passion of romantic love.
The questions are divided into 26 groups,
each of which describes one aspect of the romantic delusion —the A to Z of romantic love.
This link also explains how to get a copy
of the complete Romantic Love Test (180 questions) in a printed booklet.
When Was
Romantic Love Invented? —looking for the historical
beginning of romantic love.
Those who do not
believe that romantic love is a cultural construct
are invited to submit their examples of romantic love
from history or literature of more than 800 years ago.
A comprehensive course description for a class
in the Minnesota
Free University called "New Ways of
Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships"
,
including a distant learning option.
If we decide that romantic love is a cultural illusion,
then we want stronger foundations for our relationships.
Authenticity might be a wonderful alternative to romantic delusions.