first personalities were formed by childhood socialization.
And because our sex was the first fact noted about us:
If we were girls, we were enculturated to be 'feminine'.
If we were boys, we were enculturated to be 'masculine'.
These conventional gender-personalities are so assumed
in some cultures that they seem natural to everyone.
Girls naturally grow up with conventional 'feminine' personalities.
Boys naturally grow up with conventional 'masculine' personalities.
instead of just two possible gender-patterns,
there are actually thousands of possible gender-personalities.
There are both admirable and regrettable (as well as neutral)
personality traits within both 'masculinity' and 'femininity'.
The Gender-Pattern Chart will help each of us to make explicit
just what personality characteristics we now have
—and perhaps what ways we would like to change our selves.
explore how we developed our original gender-personalities
—and how we might go about changing the selves we discover.
How did we learn our particular personality responses?
And how much control do we have over our next phase of development?
If we have children, which personality traits would we like them to have?
I. THE DYNAMICS OF GENDER
II. THE GENDER-PATTERN CHART: WHO ARE WE?
III. FROM CONVENTIONAL
TO FREELY-CHOSEN PERSONALITIES
IV. GENDER TRAITS COME FROM CULTURE
V. 'LOVE' AS A GAME OF GENDER-PERSONALITIES
VI. BECOMING MORE AUTHENTIC
CHANGES OUR GENDER-PERSONALITIES
VII. LOVE BASED ON AUTHENTICITY
TRANSCENDS CONVENTIONAL GENDER-PERSONALITIES
VIII. RAISING ADMIRABLE CHILDREN
Park is an existential philosopher.
This presentation and discussion is based on a chapter called
"Masculinity/Femininity: Loving Beyond Our Gender-Personalities"
from his most popular book New Ways of Loving:
How Authenticity Transforms Relationships.
If you click that title, the complete table of contents of the book will appear.
And from that table of contents you can open the first page of Chapter 8,
"Masculinity/Femininity: Loving Beyond Our Gender Personalities".
Several other books on gender will appear if you click Gender Bibliography.
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