New Ways of
most assumptions about love
and replaces them with new forms of loving relationships:
Romantic love, sexual attraction, & conventional marriage
are replaced by new relationships beginning with our self-inventing selves.
We can love freely instead of imposing obligations.
We can love without needing, possessiveness, or jealousy.
We can love beyond our imprinted sexual fantasies
and our enculturated gender-personalities.
We can weigh the pros and cons of having children.
And we might even love beyond our existential loneliness.
A Brief History of My Book on Love
Short Selections from New Ways of Loving
Copyright page —SUBJECT HEADINGS for this book.
A synopsis of each
chapter of New Ways of Loving.
Table of Contents of New Ways of Loving
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the Old Ways of Loving
PART I: From Romantic Illusions to Authentic Loving
Ch. 1 Romantic
Love is a Hoax!
Emotional Programming to 'Fall in Love'
Ch. 2 Loving
PART II: Loving Freely without Needing
Ch. 3 Loving
Choice & Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation
Ch. 4 Loving
Seven Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them
PART III: Multiple Loving without Jealousy
Ch. 5 Loving
As We Become More Authentic, Jealousy Disappears
Ch. 6 Multiple
Loving: Open Relationships Beyond Jealousy
PART IV: Sex-Scripts & Gender-Personalities
Ch. 7 Loving
Transcending Our Imprinted Sex-Scripts
Ch. 8 Masculinity/Femininity:
Loving Beyond Our Gender-Personalities
PART V: Birth Planning
Ch. 9 Why
Have (More) Children?
PART VI: Loving without Marrying and three other chapters
Ch. 10 Loving without Marrying
Ch. 11 Living in Separate Households
Ch. 12 Keeping Relationship Journals
Ch. 13 Loving
in Existential Freedom
PART VII: Bibliographies
for each chapter of New Ways of Loving
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