As a follow-up for the pre-Valentine's Day presentation and discussion
called "Romantic Love is a Hoax!".
the Forum Committee will also sponsor
a 4-week mini-course led by James Park
called "New Ways of Loving".
This will meet in Coffman Memorial Union 354, third floor,
beginning February 20.,
Friday afternoons 3:15-5:00 PM.
This seminar is also free of charge, but the text for discussion,
NEW WAYS OF LOVING by James Park,
costs $10 for the 8 chapters to be discussed.
Here are the details of the follow-up mini-course:
This fresh look at loving relationships
challenges many long-accepted notions about love.
Do you agree with these new perspectives?
1. Romantic love is a cultural invention, not a natural phenomenon.
2. Our loving relationships improve as we become more autonomous.
3. Love is best when it arises from free choice rather than
from preconceived patterns, expectations, and obligations.
4. When the purpose of love is the satisfaction of pre-existing needs,
the relationship is likely to become possessive, using, and jealous.
5. Jealousy is a learned emotion (based on comparison,
competition, and the fear of being replaced), but we can
transcend it by becoming more Authentic (singular, irreplaceable).
6. If we are immune to jealousy, we can love more than one person.
7. Our imprinted sexual responses deeply affect our relationships.
8. We will love better if we move beyond our original gender-personalities.
Each of the four weeks, we will discuss two chapters from
New Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships.
{If you are reading this while still on-line,
you can click the blue chapter titles and see the first page of that chapter.}
PART I From Romantic Illusions to Authentic Loving (February 20)
Ch. 1 Romantic Love is a Hoax!
Emotional Programming to 'Fall in Love'
Ch. 2 Loving from Authenticity
PART II Loving Freely without Needing (February 27)
Ch. 3 Loving in Freedom:
Choice & Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation
Ch. 4 Loving without Needing:
Seven Preconceived Needs and How to Transcend Them
PART III Multiple Loving without Jealousy (March 6)
Ch. 5 Loving without Jealousy:
As We Become More Authentic, Jealousy Disappears
Ch. 6 Multiple Loving: Why Not Be Open to Loving
More than One Persons Deeply and Authentically?
PART IV Sex-Scripts & Gender-Personalities (March 13???)
Ch. 7 Loving Beyond Sex:
Transcending Our Imprinted Sex-Scripts
Ch. 8 Masculinity/Femininity:
Loving Beyond Our Gender-Personalities
[This fourth session of the mini-course will be held
at the option of those who attend the first three meetings.
It might also be a different time and place.
Call James Park for details: 871-7275.]
{This file, NWL-CLAS, updated 1-13-98}