An Individual spiritual path
Karen Allendoerfer,
Cambridge, MA, USA
Humanist UU

1. How do you describe your form of spirituality?
Distinguish it from others.

To me, the word "spirit" is used metaphorically only.
I may speak of the "spirit" of the law.
I may say that I feel "disspirited".
The word is a shorthand for "essence"
or "underlying meaning" in the first case.
In the second case, it refers to an emotional state.

It is distinguished from all of the forms of "spirituality"
that require metaphysical entities, gods, goddesses,
souls, and the like, to literally exist.

2. What does "spirituality" include and exclude
from your point of view?

Frankly, it's mostly an unnecessary
and confusing word in this context.

But I'll give it a shot:
it includes feelings of wonder, awe,
delight, the appreciation of beauty
and the vastness of time and space.
It also includes the feeling of being connected to the universe,
a child of the stars.

It excludes hypothetical, judgemental, anthropomorphic-but-metaphysical beings
who watch over one's every move.
It especially excludes such beings who apparently
have nothing better to do than be concerned about
my, or anyone else's, sex life.

3. For example, how does a "spiritual experience"
differ from an emotional response?

It may not differ.
However, it may involve the intellect as well as the emotions.

4. Does your form of spirituality involve a world-view
or metaphysical system?

Nothing metaphysical, no.
But there is a world-view:  that the universe itself,
the material world, is full of beauty, awe, and wonder.
And goodness.
One does not need to place these things in a metaphysical realm.

5. Does your spirituality involve any supernatural (or non-obvious)
beings, entities, forces, influences, or tendencies?

It does not involve anything supernatural.
But you could certainly call synaptic biochemistry,
quantum mechanics, the forces of natural selection,
and other big scientific ideas "non-obvious."

6. What are the benefits of your form of spirituality?

It doesn't require me to believe in things
that I simply cannot bring myself to believe in,
such as the resurrection of a dead body.
Thus I feel it honors my intellect, rather than shunting it aside.

It enables me to view myself, a flawed material being,
as a being with worth and dignity.
And this worth and dignity is not contingent upon
my believing in, "choosing", or loving some metaphysical being
whose existence I see no evidence for and cannot believe in
(and whom, from various descriptions I have read
of the gods people believe in,
are not entities I would want to know anyway,
even if she/he/it/they did exist).

It takes away fear of death.

It spurs me on to action in this life,
because I see this life as being the only one I've got.
It also allows me to look upon life with fewer prejudices
and preconceived notions about how things are or ought to be.
I think it thereby prevents me from wasting time and effort
on misguided and hurtful crusades against people who,
while they may be different from me, hurt no one.

7. How does your form of spirituality deal with death?

It views it as part of the pageant of life.
On the individual level, thinking about
what went on before I was born is very comforting.
No pain, no judgement, no fear.
After I die, just as before I was born, I won't be there,
and I won't be there to regret not being there.

8. Does your form of spirituality involve
any ritual practices or spiritual exercises?

Looking at the stars on a winter night.
Watching the leaves change and the birds fly south.
Reading.  Writing.  Going to museums.  Debating with friends.

9. What do critics of your form of spirituality say
—and how do you answer them?

That it isn't really "spirituality."
My reply is that I must be honest
about my own experience of what is true.
I could say I believed in a metaphysical God,
or a spirit world, but I'd be lying.
I could try to make myself believe in these things,
in order to please others,
but it would be a tortured and futile exercise.
Most critics of my "spiritual path" agree
that it is better not to lie, and not to torture oneself.

10. If your spiritual path were mistaken or distorted in some way,
how would you uncover the errors or recognize the distortions?

I've been mistaken many times in my search.
Being mistaken is part of the journey.
I uncover errors in this area as in all other areas of endeavor:
by both intellectually weighing the evidence,
and by listening to my gut.

But there's no dogma here, no True Way.
So no need to zealously ferret out errors and distortions.
Mostly I'm interested in being authentic, honest,
and going where the data, and my experience, lead me.

Sincerely,

Karen Allendoerfer,
Humanist UU.
My e-mail address:
ravena@alumni.Princeton.EDU (Karen Lona Allendoerfer)

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