1. James Park Growing
21 Ways to Become Less Dependent & More Authentic
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 1998)
(ISBN: 0-89231-521-0; paperback)
(Library of Congress call number: BD436.P37 1998)
This small book contrasts
with relationships based in Authenticity (A).
Each of the 21 sections of the book
describes a major feature of dependent relationships
and its opposite extreme, loving from Authenticity.
For example, Section 21 contrasts:
D21. "I try to control my beloved." with
A21. "We have replaced power-plays by loving in freedom."
For a complete list
of the 21 areas for interpersonal growth,
click this title: Growing in Love.
[last]. James Park "Loving
Choice & Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation"
Chapter 3 of New
Ways of Loving:
How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 20004th edition)
This chapter is also available in an earlier
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 19963rd edition)
This chapter is published in Loving Freely without Needing,
Volume 2 of a 6-volume series called Love Among Authentic Persons.
The other chapter in this chapbook is Chapter 4: "Loving without Needing:
Seven Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them".
This chapter shows
how it is possible
to move beyond conventional 'loving' relationships,
which are based in the quest for security and the imposing of obligations
to creating loving relationships based in free choice from both sides
and complete flexibility of relationship-design.
To see the first two
pages of this chapter, click this title:
"Loving in Freedom: Choice & Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation".
For the table of contents
of the whole book
(20004th edition), click this title:
New Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships.
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