N e w  W a y s  o f  L o v i n g:

    This fresh look at loving relationships
challenges many long-accepted notions about love.
Do you agree with these new perspectives?

1. Romantic love is a cultural invention, not a natural phenomenon.

2. Our loving relationships improve as we become more autonomous.

3. Love is best when it arises from free choice rather than
    from pre-conceived patterns, expectations, and obligations.

4. When the purpose of love is the satisfaction of pre-existing needs,
    the relationship is likely to become possessive, using, and jealous.

5. Jealousy is a learned emotion
    (based on comparison, competition, and the fear of being replaced),
    but we can transcend it by becoming more Authentic (singular, irreplaceable).

6. If we become immune to jealousy, we can love more than one person.

7. Our imprinted sexual responses deeply affect our relationships.

8. We will love better if we revise our original gender-personalities.

OUTLINE:

    Each of these 8 themes is discussed in a chapter of
New Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships by James Park.
This presentation will briefly summarize the contents of the first 8 chapters.

{You may read the first page of any chapter by clicking the title below.}

I. From Romantic Illusions to Authentic Loving

    Ch. 1 Romantic Love is a Hoax!
                Emotional Programming to 'Fall in Love'

    Ch. 2 Loving from Authenticity

II. Loving Freely without Needing

    Ch. 3 Loving in Freedom:
                Choice & Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation

    Ch. 4 Loving without Needing:
                Seven Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them

III. Multiple Loving without Jealousy

    Ch. 5 Loving without Jealousy:
                As We Become More Authentic, Jealousy Disappears

    Ch. 6 Multiple Loving:
                Open Relationships Beyond Jealousy

IV. Loving beyond Sex-Scripts and Gender-Personalities

    Ch. 7 Loving Beyond Sex:
                Transcending Our Imprinted Sex-Scripts

    Ch. 8 Masculinity/Femininity:
                Loving Beyond Our Gender-Personalities

    James Park is an existential philosopher.
New Ways of Loving is his most popular book..
Other recommended reading will be found on his home page.
A list of these bibliographies (one for each chapter)
will appear if you click: LOVE PAGE.
The complete table of contents of New Ways of Loving
will appear if you click that title.
(There are 13 chapters in all.)
From the table of contents you will be able to view
the first page of each chapter,
which includes the outline of that chapter.

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The contents of this page have not been reviewed or approved by the University of Minnesota.