1. James Park Growing
in Love:
21
Ways to Become Less Dependent & More Authentic
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 1998)
24 pages
(ISBN: 0-89231-521-0; paperback)
(Library of Congress call number: BD436.P37
1998)
This small book contrasts
dependent
relationships (D)
with relationships based in Authenticity
(A).
Each of the 21 sections of the book
describes a major feature of dependent relationships
—and its opposite extreme, loving from Authenticity.
For example, Section 21 contrasts:
D21. "I try to control my beloved." with
A21. "We have replaced power-plays by loving in freedom."
For a complete list of the
21 areas for interpersonal growth,
click this title: Growing
in Love.
[last]. James Park "Loving
without Needing:
Seven Pre-Existing Needs and
How to Transcend Them"
Chapter 4 of New Ways
of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 2000—4th
edition)
This chapter is also available in an
earlier edition:
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 1996—3rd
edition):
This chapter is published in Loving
Freely without Needing,
Volume 2 of a 6-volume series called Love
Among Authentic Persons.
The other chapter in this chapbook is Chapter
3: "Loving in Freedom:
Choice & Flexibility instead of Security
& Obligation".)
This chapter explores the
following pre-existing needs:
(1) Security and the Need to Be Needed; (2)
Approval;
(3) Romance; (4) Sex; (5) Affection &
Intimacy;
(6) Communication & Companionship; and
(7) Relationship Structure.
As we become more whole,
autonomous, and Authentic within ourselves,
we are empowered to love without clinging.
This chapter explains how we might go about
transcending or satisfying the pre-existing
needs
that might otherwise distort our relationships.
To see the first two pages
of this chapter, click this title:
"Loving
without Needing:
Seven
Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them"
For the table of contents
of the whole book
(2000—4th edition), click this title:
New
Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships.
More books on how to love
without needing and clinging
will be added to this bibliography—when you
suggest them.
Send all comments to James Park: e-mail:
PARKx032@TC.UMN.EDU
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